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Choosing a Spouse or Life Partner

What qualities, characteristics, factors, or values are important to you in choosing a spouse or life partner?



Below are a number of qualities, characteristics, values or factors which might be relevant to a person's choice of a spouse or life partner (or whatever the PC term is). On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being totally irrelevant and 10 being THE most important factor), how would you rate each of these in importance when it comes to selecting a spouse or life partner?

Poll #969513 Ideal Life Partner

Physical attractiveness (looks)

Mean: 6.32 Median: 7 Std. Dev 1.57
1
2(2.0%)
2
0(0.0%)
3
3(2.9%)
4
7(6.9%)
5
12(11.8%)
6
26(25.5%)
7
32(31.4%)
8
15(14.7%)
9
4(3.9%)
10
1(1.0%)

Physical fitness

Mean: 5.17 Median: 5 Std. Dev 1.75
1
4(3.9%)
2
3(2.9%)
3
11(10.8%)
4
15(14.7%)
5
22(21.6%)
6
24(23.5%)
7
16(15.7%)
8
5(4.9%)
9
2(2.0%)
10
0(0.0%)

Intelligence

Mean: 8.72 Median: 9 Std. Dev 1.10
1
0(0.0%)
2
0(0.0%)
3
0(0.0%)
4
0(0.0%)
5
1(1.0%)
6
2(2.0%)
7
12(11.8%)
8
22(21.6%)
9
38(37.3%)
10
27(26.5%)

Personality

Mean: 9.49 Median: 10 Std. Dev 0.83
1
0(0.0%)
2
0(0.0%)
3
0(0.0%)
4
0(0.0%)
5
0(0.0%)
6
2(2.0%)
7
1(1.0%)
8
7(6.9%)
9
27(26.5%)
10
65(63.7%)

Common Interests

Mean: 7.52 Median: 8 Std. Dev 1.35
1
0(0.0%)
2
0(0.0%)
3
1(1.0%)
4
1(1.0%)
5
6(5.9%)
6
10(9.9%)
7
28(27.7%)
8
36(35.6%)
9
11(10.9%)
10
8(7.9%)

Financial security

Mean: 5.74 Median: 6 Std. Dev 2.07
1
2(2.0%)
2
6(6.0%)
3
8(8.0%)
4
10(10.0%)
5
18(18.0%)
6
18(18.0%)
7
16(16.0%)
8
14(14.0%)
9
6(6.0%)
10
2(2.0%)

Approval of your friends and family

Mean: 5.51 Median: 5 Std. Dev 2.59
1
9(8.9%)
2
8(7.9%)
3
8(7.9%)
4
7(6.9%)
5
20(19.8%)
6
10(9.9%)
7
11(10.9%)
8
14(13.9%)
9
9(8.9%)
10
5(5.0%)

Approval of you by his/her friends and family

Mean: 5.67 Median: 6 Std. Dev 2.55
1
8(7.9%)
2
10(9.9%)
3
5(5.0%)
4
6(5.9%)
5
17(16.8%)
6
11(10.9%)
7
14(13.9%)
8
15(14.9%)
9
13(12.9%)
10
2(2.0%)

Absence of conflict

Mean: 6.50 Median: 7 Std. Dev 1.94
1
2(2.0%)
2
1(1.0%)
3
4(4.0%)
4
7(6.9%)
5
16(15.8%)
6
17(16.8%)
7
21(20.8%)
8
16(15.8%)
9
14(13.9%)
10
3(3.0%)

Compatability of religious or spiritual beliefs and values

Mean: 6.19 Median: 6 Std. Dev 2.46
1
6(5.9%)
2
4(4.0%)
3
5(5.0%)
4
7(6.9%)
5
16(15.8%)
6
14(13.9%)
7
17(16.8%)
8
13(12.9%)
9
9(8.9%)
10
10(9.9%)

Shared value system

Mean: 7.80 Median: 8 Std. Dev 1.82
1
0(0.0%)
2
0(0.0%)
3
3(3.0%)
4
2(2.0%)
5
8(7.9%)
6
11(10.9%)
7
14(13.9%)
8
20(19.8%)
9
23(22.8%)
10
20(19.8%)

Sense of humour

Mean: 8.75 Median: 9 Std. Dev 1.26
1
0(0.0%)
2
0(0.0%)
3
0(0.0%)
4
1(1.0%)
5
1(1.0%)
6
4(3.9%)
7
9(8.8%)
8
21(20.6%)
9
32(31.4%)
10
34(33.3%)

Are there any other characteristics, values or factors that are very important to you in your selection of a spouse/life partner?

From those qualities listed in the previous questions, which is THE most important to you in your choice of a spuse/life partner?

Physical attractiveness
0(0.0%)
Physical fitness
0(0.0%)
Intelligence
10(9.8%)
Personality
51(50.0%)
Common interests
7(6.9%)
Financial security
1(1.0%)
Approval of your friends and family
1(1.0%)
Approval of you by his/her friends and family
0(0.0%)
Absence of conflict
3(2.9%)
Compatability of religious or spiritual beliefs and values
5(4.9%)
Shared value system
11(10.8%)
Sense of humour
8(7.8%)
Other (i.e. the one you listed in the previous question)
5(4.9%)

When in comes to D-I-V-O-R-C-E (or some other final dissolution of the relationship), the point of view listed below that is closest to your own is:

Commitment is forever
1(1.0%)
Commitment to your spouse/life partner should only be broken for very strong reasons and after a lot of effort to keep it together
50(49.0%)
If you realize that it's not gonna work after reasonable efforts to stay together, divorce is a valid choice
41(40.2%)
If at first you don't succeed, try and try again
0(0.0%)
Divorce is no big deal
5(4.9%)
If there are children, stay together until the kids are grown, then divorce away
3(2.9%)
None of these statements comes close to my point of view (please feel free to comment)
2(2.0%)
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