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Do We Become Our Parents?



The subjects of these polls may be a little intense, they deal with our childhood. Not everyone has a happy childhood, and how we all deal with our childhood as adults has an obvious correlation to our happiness, our well-being and how we treat others in our families and in our sphere of influence. If any of the questions below make you feel uncomfortable, this is not my intention. In such case, please feel welcome to hit the submit answer button without selecting any choice.


For the majority of the time from the time of your birth until you left that home (or until now if you still live at that home), who were you raised by?

My biological mother and father, who were married to each other throughout that time
92(59.0%)
My biological mother and father, who were not married throughout that time, but who lived together as man and wife
1(0.6%)
My biological mother and father who were married, but when they separated or divorced, I lived with my mother
23(14.7%)
My biological mother and father who were married, but when they separated or divorced, I lived with my father
1(0.6%)
My mother, who was a single parent for most/all of that time
18(11.5%)
My father, who was a single parent for most/all of that time
0(0.0%)
I was adopted at an early age by a married couple
3(1.9%)
My grandparents or a grandparent
4(2.6%)
Another blood relative (e.g. an aunt and uncle)
1(0.6%)
Family friends who were not blood relatives
0(0.0%)
My mother and her same sex partner
0(0.0%)
My father and his same sex partner
0(0.0%)
Foster parents (either one set or a number of different ones)
0(0.0%)
My situation doesn't fit in any of these choices and I'd rather not talk about it
3(1.9%)
My situation doesn't fit into any of these choices, but I'm happy to talk about it an will comment in a reply
10(6.4%)


(EDIT: There is an error in the first choice in the next poll. Instead of excellent, read it as "good to excellent")

What is your relationship like today (or if those persons are deceased, what was it like at the time of their death)?

It is (or was at the time of their death) an excellent relationship with my parents or with the persons who raised me
73(53.3%)
It is (or was at the time of their death) a poor to terrible relationship with the people who raised me (include in this category non-existant if you don't talk at all)
10(7.3%)
My relationship is (or was at the time of his/her death) good/great with my mother/mother figure, but not good/awful with my father/father figure
19(13.9%)
My relationship is (or was at the time of his/her death) good/great with my father/father figure, but not good/awful with my mother/mother figure
15(10.9%)
The choices above don't cover my situation
20(14.6%)


For the most part, are you content with the way that you were raised?

Yes
86(65.6%)
No
20(15.3%)
Unsure
25(19.1%)


If you are a parent, or hope to become one, what is one thing that you learned from the persons who raised you that you will do with your child or children?



If you are a parent, or hope to become one, what is one thing that you learned from the persons who raised you that you will not do with your child or children?

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