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Good Qualities 
18th-Oct-2010 09:52 am
VDay1
Someone once said that the secret to a lasting relationship is to focus on the other person's good qualities and overlook the rest. This is a chance for you to identify what qualities are important to you in your current or potential significant other...



Poll #1632649 Positive Qualities

For those of you who have a spouse, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend or siginificant other, what in your opinion is that person's most positive quality?

This question doesn't apply to me
14(25.5%)
Kindness
4(7.3%)
Sense of Humour
4(7.3%)
Physical attractiveness
0(0.0%)
Good moral character
4(7.3%)
Unselfishness
2(3.6%)
Ability to show love and affection
6(10.9%)
Optimism
1(1.8%)
Intellect
3(5.5%)
Work ethic
1(1.8%)
Good provider/materially successful
0(0.0%)
Domestic abilities
0(0.0%)
High sex drive
0(0.0%)
Good nature/happy disposition
3(5.5%)
Unable to define it, he/she just makes me feel happy and loved
13(23.6%)
Something else (what?)
0(0.0%)

Same question as above, only with ticky-boxes: what are that person's good qualities?

This question doesn't apply to me
12(3.4%)
Kindness
31(8.9%)
Sense of Humour
38(10.9%)
Physical attractiveness
33(9.4%)
Good moral character
31(8.9%)
Unselfishness
22(6.3%)
Ability to show love and affection
31(8.9%)
Optimism
15(4.3%)
Intellect
31(8.9%)
Work ethic
21(6.0%)
Good provider/materially successful
16(4.6%)
Domestic abilities
12(3.4%)
High sex drive
10(2.9%)
Good nature/happy disposition
23(6.6%)
Unable to define it, he/she just makes me feel happy and loved
20(5.7%)
Something else (what?)
4(1.1%)

For those of you who are solo, and for the rest of you before you became coupled, what qualities are/were you looking for in a partner/significant other/boyfriend/girlfriend? (Select as many as apply)

I'm happy being alone so if I pick any of these choices, that doesn't mean that I'm not content as I am.
7(1.8%)
Kindness
39(10.3%)
Sense of Humour
44(11.6%)
Physical attractiveness
30(7.9%)
Good moral character
30(7.9%)
Unselfishness
19(5.0%)
Ability to show love and affection
34(9.0%)
Optimism
23(6.1%)
Intellect
45(11.9%)
Work ethic
22(5.8%)
Good provider/materially successful
12(3.2%)
Domestic abilities
11(2.9%)
High sex drive
12(3.2%)
Good nature/happy disposition
25(6.6%)
Unable to define it, he/she just makes me feel happy and loved
19(5.0%)
Something else (what?)
7(1.8%)

Same question as in the previous one, but which quality is most important?

I'm happy being single and therefore choose not to select any of these.
0(0.0%)
Kindness
9(17.3%)
Sense of Humour
5(9.6%)
Physical attractiveness
1(1.9%)
Good moral character
6(11.5%)
Unselfishness
1(1.9%)
Ability to show love and affection
7(13.5%)
Optimism
1(1.9%)
Intellect
5(9.6%)
Work ethic
0(0.0%)
Good provider/materially successful
0(0.0%)
Domestic abilities
0(0.0%)
High sex drive
1(1.9%)
Good nature/happy disposition
2(3.8%)
Unable to define it, he/she just makes me feel happy and loved
11(21.2%)
Something else (what?)
3(5.8%)
Comments 
18th-Oct-2010 04:56 pm (UTC)
What's most important: the ability to love and stay committed
18th-Oct-2010 05:06 pm (UTC)
Good one. In hindsight, I should have included fidelity/commitment on this list.
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18th-Oct-2010 06:29 pm (UTC)
I have a requirement that all potential partners must be able to sing well. :-P Weird, I know.
20th-Oct-2010 12:53 am (UTC)
Well, if it makes you feel any better, I honestly don't think I would ever enter into a relationship with someone who doesn't like to read.
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18th-Oct-2010 09:24 pm (UTC)
I seriously do not buy that there are as many people as there seem to be who don't deem physical attraction important. Unless you're getting to know someone online, and even then a lot of the time (pictures, videos, etc), the physical does come into play. No one can deny, when you first meet someone, whether you're consciously aware of it or not, the physical is going to be the first thing you notice (unless you smell or hear them first, lol). Now I'm not saying physical beauty is the be-all end-all of a good relationship, but it's a pretty undeniable factor unless the couple is asexual. I'm guessing so many people didn't choose it (in the ticky boxes) because they didn't want to come across as shallow- mainly because I almost did that myself. The physical attraction is something that changes for me as I get to know the person, and I'd imagine it works that way for a lot of other people as well. As I get to know someone, if I was unattracted at first and I like who they are as a person, their physical becomes beautiful to me; and if someone is attractive to me at first, and as I get to know them they prove to be assholes, they become physically unattractive to me. It still counts as physical attraction (or the lack thereof).
18th-Oct-2010 10:08 pm (UTC)
A good work ethic is one of his very best qualities; unfortunately it's also one of his worst.
19th-Oct-2010 01:29 am (UTC)
great communication, he takes care of me, and WANTS to take care of me (very important), always there when i need him, and is my protector (but not in an overbearing way).
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