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Saying I Love You 
6th-Jun-2010 09:51 pm
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Poll #1575247 I Love You

Generally speaking, do you and your significant other make it a habit to say "I love you" to each other on a daily basis?

Yes
48(49.5%)
No
13(13.4%)
I don't have a significant other so this doesn't apply to me
33(34.0%)
Something else (what?)
3(3.1%)

Growing up, did you parents (or whoever raised you) say "I love you" to you regularly?

Yes, daily
22(22.9%)
Yes, almost daily
15(15.6%)
Occasionally, but not daily
21(21.9%)
Only on special occasions
9(9.4%)
Hardly ever
14(14.6%)
Never
10(10.4%)
Something else (what?)
5(5.2%)

If you have a child or children, do you tell him/her/them "I love you"? (If you don't have children, what if you did?)

Yes, daily
42(53.8%)
Yes, almost daily
11(14.1%)
Occasionally, but not daily
15(19.2%)
Only on special occasions
3(3.8%)
Hardly ever
2(2.6%)
Never
0(0.0%)
Something else (what?)
5(6.4%)

Who do you say "I love you" to?

Your significant other
13(13.7%)
Your mother
2(2.1%)
Your father
0(0.0%)
A grandparent
0(0.0%)
An uncle or aunt
0(0.0%)
A sibling
1(1.1%)
A niece or nephew
0(0.0%)
A cousin
0(0.0%)
A good friend
0(0.0%)
A teacher
0(0.0%)
A student
0(0.0%)
A co-worker
0(0.0%)
Yourself
0(0.0%)
Nobody
4(4.2%)
Someone else (who?)
2(2.1%)

In your opinion, do people say "I love you" enough, too much or not often enough, generally speaking?

People say it too much, the phrase is over-used
24(25.8%)
Not often enough, people should speak their love more
36(38.7%)
Just the right amount
17(18.3%)
Something else (what?)
16(17.2%)
Comments 
7th-Jun-2010 05:09 am (UTC)
I find this an oddly appropriate question because the boyfriend and I just hit the "I love you" stage...Thursday, I think.

In familial and friend relationships I am more apt to use the phrase because it tends to be an unconditional kind of love. I'll always love my parents and my sister, and my closest friends are as good as sisters to me.

With romantic relationships, though, I tend to hesitate. I need to know that my feelings are proper and justified. It took six months for me to realize that I'm in love and saying it was one of the most difficult things I've done in recent memory.

It was totally worth it, though.
7th-Jun-2010 05:50 am (UTC)
I tell everyone I love that I love them. I tell my husband and my little girl many times a day, every day.
7th-Jun-2010 06:09 am (UTC)
it's not a common phrase at all in my family. i don't remember hearing it growing up. it might be a cultural thing. correct me if i'm wrong but it seems like americans say it a lot more than other cultures. for that reason it seems to lose its meaning to me.

since i rarely heard it growing up, i don't know what to do with it when people say it to me, and i find it hard to say to others, even my family.
7th-Jun-2010 06:49 am (UTC)
Since I've gotten to college, I've definitely have said "I love you" a lot more to my parents. My siblings never really said I love you to each other, it was just sort of known, though my brother and I have started saying it to each other more often. I say I love you to my friends when I go on long trips, if they feel down, or if I just blurt it out.

I've never gotten into a position to say I love you to a significant other. I got mad at someone the other night when he was like, "I like you" and I was like, "uhh, you barely even know me." I'm just a total mood killer.
7th-Jun-2010 07:05 am (UTC)
I am not a greats sayer of I love you. I got it told as a kid sure(not an a daily basis though) but I also don't need to hear it in that phrase eeryday , it can also be actions which make me sure to be loved.

I keep it special though and think there are too many who use it too much and onto everything really..
7th-Jun-2010 11:51 am (UTC)
I chose significant other and somoneone else - someone else being my pets!

I love you is not heard in our family - from parent to child nor from child to parent. It is a cultural thing like biat said, my parents are not American and it isn't something you need to say its just known.
7th-Jun-2010 03:05 pm (UTC)
Yeah I picked other cuz I say it to my doggies :D
7th-Jun-2010 01:19 pm (UTC)
The last question depends on context. I feel like family members don't say "I love you" often enough, but that the phrase is overused when it comes to the early stages of relationships and occasionally among friends.
7th-Jun-2010 02:21 pm (UTC)
Who do you say "I love you" to?

Whomever I'm drunk with.
7th-Jun-2010 02:57 pm (UTC)
I love you. ♥
7th-Jun-2010 02:32 pm (UTC)
sometimes i would think random acts of kindness can mean saying "i love you" to someone.

witch also brings to mind.. the i love you but not in love with you factor. sometimes the "in love" just fades away... alas!

Oh.. btw.. I love you!! <3 :)
7th-Jun-2010 02:50 pm (UTC)
There's a serious "I love you" and the multiple times a day "love yas" that get bounced around. Also, we tell our two-year-old we love her all the time and she just recently started saying, "You, Mommy, you," back in return (in the same tone), which is just as good as hearing all the words. :)
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7th-Jun-2010 05:48 pm (UTC)
I think I was 5 when I heard my mother crying on the phone because her grandfather had died and "there were so many things I never got to say, he never knew how much I loved him." and i decided that was never going to happen with anyone I loved and have always made a point to tell people how I feel about them.

my parents, otoh, were emotionally and physically abusive bastards who never told me they loved me (i'm fairly sure they did not, as they pretty much just used me for attention from other people "oh, what good parents you are" when they weren't being actively abusive. Her crying phone call from above was probably as fake as everything else she did for attention, she was all about "feel sorry for me, pay attention to me, make everything about me, I don't care that your husband just died, me, me, me!"). I tried to tell my mother i loved her once (I'm not actually sure it was true, or if it was just a child's wishful thinking) but her response of "what are you trying to butter me up for" was enough I never made that mistake again.

I'm sure I'd have checked almost all the boxes if I had any relatives, but for me, it's SOs, pets, and friends.
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8th-Jun-2010 09:58 pm (UTC)
I second this. When it's genuine, it seems to be underused; when it becomes trivial, however, it's used all the time.
7th-Jun-2010 11:57 pm (UTC)
Don't really know what to say to the last one. I've friends who say "I love you" when they really mean "I care about you", in that context, I think it's said too much. But me and my guy say it to each other not only every day but several times a day because that's just the way we are. And it's not a sickly sweet version of it, either.

Edited at 2010-06-07 11:57 pm (UTC)
8th-Jun-2010 01:00 am (UTC)
I totally tell my cat I love him every day before leave for work.
8th-Jun-2010 07:05 pm (UTC)
Growing up, my mom said "I love you" many times a day -- my dad, NEVER. I tried saying it to him once when I was about ten years old and he just paused and said "Right back atcha."
10th-Jun-2010 05:10 am (UTC)
A bunch of my friends from college would spit out I love you's like the apocalypse was happening. I just didn't feel that strongly for them. I liked them all, but love.. that's different.
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