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14th-Jan-2010 09:53 am
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I haven't seen my boyfriend since New Year's, due to various scheduling conflicts and the fact that he lives, like, halfway across the state. I wasn't expecting to see him until February (*sad face*). HOWEVER, he has now invited me to go snowboarding/skiing with him and his marine corps buddies. This would be super-expensive: I would be throwing down about $400 in three days, and I have all of $710 to my name. Yet I would be hanging out with my boyfriend and doing something new, and I'm always up for new experiences.

Poll #1511492 Snowboarding/skiing

What do you think? Should I go or shouldn't I go?

Yes, you should go have fun!
25(36.8%)
No, you should save your money.
33(48.5%)
Neither of those answers suit me, and I will explain why in comments
6(8.8%)
None of the above
4(5.9%)

Choose one:

Team Conan
26(40.6%)
Team Leno
2(3.1%)
Team Edward
1(1.6%)
Team Jacob
1(1.6%)
Why all the hate?
20(31.2%)

Ticky?

Ticky!
46(67.6%)
No ticky.
22(32.4%)
Comments 
14th-Jan-2010 03:07 pm (UTC)
Personally I say that you should go and have fun, but only if you think you'll be able to afford it in the long run. Will you be getting a paycheck soon? Taxes? Something of that nature? Go for it. If not, politely decline...or suggest that you do something else afterwards. He'll understand if you simply cannot afford to do it.
14th-Jan-2010 03:16 pm (UTC)
You've gotta do what you've gotta do. Only thing is - with what you've got left (if you go), will you have enough to live on? And if not, how will you get some more money together? I'm not the outdoor type, but if I were, I'd probably go and budget like crazy afterwards!
14th-Jan-2010 03:33 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I said no but that's my being cheap. As for teams, Conan's the only non-douche in the list. *shrugs*
14th-Jan-2010 03:53 pm (UTC)
I said no for the same reason... I brought debt into my relationship and that wasn't fair to anyone and I wouldn't wish that on anyone else. :/

Also, I *LIKED* Jay Leno, it's unfortunate that things have transpired they way they have. But I like Conan, too, and since he's definitely the injured party here, I'm in his corner all the way!
14th-Jan-2010 04:05 pm (UTC)
Er, yeah, and there's a reason why I'm not a diplomat. :D Really, I should have said that Jay Leno's not such a douche, but he kinda got lump-summed there, didn't he?
Honestly I feel bad for them both, but I feel so much worse for Conan, he definitely is the injured party in this case.
14th-Jan-2010 04:01 pm (UTC)
If you really have only about that much money blowing over half of it on a lark seems like a very irresponsible thing to do (and your boyfriend should know that, unless he's not aware of your financial situation, which just seems odd, to me). If he really wants you along that badly -- and he can actually afford this kind of thing -- maybe he can split your portion of the costs with you?

If not, I'd wait till February. I understand the long-distance thing sucks (I'm in that situation myself), but a month isn't that bad. And just think -- you're already halfway through it anyway.
14th-Jan-2010 06:02 pm (UTC)
I said yes, but I'm awful with my own economy, so...
14th-Jan-2010 07:08 pm (UTC)
Well, there's a few things to consider. The obvious is probably how well you'll be able to get by with the remaining money. If you're really going to struggle for a while, I probably wouldn't go. If that's enough for you to get by without worry, then go.

However, I also like to have some money put away in case an emergency comes up, so if that was really all the money I had (no savings or anything else?) I doubt I'd go.
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15th-Jan-2010 12:49 am (UTC)
Normally I would say to go and have fun, but not at the expense of half your savings/bank account. Relatively, that's a fortune!

Team Bill!
And Team Twilight-is-only-good-when-plastered!

I don't mind Leno except when he tries to be funny.

Edited at 2010-01-15 12:51 am (UTC)
15th-Jan-2010 03:07 am (UTC)
I don't know what ANY of those teams are, and so didn't vote.

As for the dilemma, I'd need more information. Such as, are you supporting yourself, and if so, will you get paid again soon enough to cover basic expenses?

Also, since your BF is the one who invited you and on such short notice, I'd have to ask, why isn't he picking up at least some of the tab for such an expensive endeavor? =/

One (or even two) months isn't that long a time away from an SO in a long distance relationship, IMHO. If you hadn't seen him since New Year's of last year, you'd definitely have a point, but the month isn't even half over. Then again, I'm old and jaded. XD
15th-Jan-2010 03:29 am (UTC)
First question depends on your financial situation. If you're debt free with no important expenses on the horizon then go. If you're deep in debt, or have other important bills coming up and this will make your situation much worse then it's not worth the added stress.
16th-Jan-2010 01:37 am (UTC)
Does your boyfriend know about your financial situation? It seems kind of inconsiderate to ask someone to come to something like this if you know it would take a considerable amount of their money...

I'd talk to him about it cause while throwing down over half of your money sounds like a bad idea, not seeing your boyfriend for a full month also sounds sad. :(
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